When I was two years old my uncle gave me a “real live,” Smokey the Bear, teddy bear for Christmas. Smokey had a hat and shovel, which was lost so early on that I don’t remember them. But somehow the plastic belt with a metal buckle that spelled out his name, “Smokey,” lasted many years.
He was very soft, though I remember him now as having had some of his more fluffy fur “loved off” like the Velveteen Rabbit’s fur at the end of the book of that name. Smokey had a rubberized face with a snout and a pink tongue. His golden eyes looked like real eyes with irises and pupils.
He went with me everywhere until I started school. Once my family took a trip to Florida when I was four years old. Thirty miles down the road from a tourist spot, where we had just visited, I started crying hysterically! I couldn’t find my Smokey the Bear!!!
My parents figured out that I left my Smokey the Bear at the last sight-seeing stop. Moma and Daddy knew I would not sleep that night without my Smokey! Daddy turned the car around and drove back 30 miles to where I left Smokey. Here is a picture of me and my Smokey the Bear.
After thirty or more years of adulthood, I discovered that Smokey had been stored in a large box which was wet from a recent flood in our garage. It was too late for him. He was already mildewed and smelly. So I sadly had to throw out probably one of the last vestiges of my childhood besides my memories and pictures.
A New Old Smokey
A few years ago I found one just like my old Smokey on the internet. I excitedly bought him and lovingly cleaned his face, eyes, and fur as best I could.
I matched blue duck cloth material to his old stained pants and sewed them on a piece at a time over the old pants. And proudly put his belt back around his middle.
I have on occasion hugged him recapturing some of the feelings I had when I hugged my old Smokey as a child. Sometimes I just look at him and smile remembering how much I loved my old Smokey.
A Symbol of My Childhood and Adulthood
I really do love the new old Smokey too. He is so much like my old one: soft, furry, with rubberized face and those same amazing eyes with irises. He still warms the heart of my inner child, whom I continue to nurture even after all these years.
The new old Smokey is like the old Smokey, yet different. He has pale blue stains on his paws and now has new pants sewn over the old ones. A few seams needed mending too.
You see the new old Smokey is like me too. I still have my inner child Elaine but I too have needed repairs. I have “stains” from old wounds from sad and painful experiences. The old wounds were sewn up, patched over or cleaned away. The new old Smokey is as a reminder that even though there have been difficult times, with emotional scars from healing wounds and painful memories, I can still enjoy my life. (My inner child told me so!)
Like the new old Smokey, I am better in spite of my past experiences. I am of more value now, just as he is. He is a vintage toy from the 1950’s. I was born in the 1950’s, so I guess I am vintage too. I am more loving, happier, more thankful and wiser now.
How is Your Inner Child?
I think we all need our inner child to help us remember to let go and enjoy; submerse ourselves in play sometimes; see the lights, beauty, happiness of Christmas, holidays, nature, a pet, or time with family and friends as our own little, inner child once did. Watching little children play or better still participating in their play can be very healing.
I am not a psychiatrist but from my own experiences, I believe the following. If we have had sad or troubled childhoods, where we had to safely tuck away our little inner child to protect them, maybe they can come out every now and then to play for a while, if life is safe enough, for even a brief outing of joy, peace, beauty and love.
Just maybe with successive outings, that sweet, loving, happy, inner child can stay out longer each time. Maybe they can help us recapture the joy we once felt before our lives crashed around us.
Welcome Your Inner Child Back
Find something that brings you joy and nurtures your inner child. If they were sick or sad, try writing them a letter, or pretend they are there in front of you and tell them how sorry you are that their lives were so hard, but that you love them and want them to find new joy and life and you need them to help you enjoy your life now.
Put aside the sad, painful memories when you are able and make room for some happy memories, even small ones at first. You deserve it. Your inner child deserves it. They didn’t ask for the situations they experienced and neither did you. Love them, love yourself.