I know I am getting older. I have this growing tendency to get in a rut. I love to get relaxed in my cozy recliner with one cat in my lap, watching old movies, eating the same foods I’ve eaten before and BORED…..but comfortable.
I am certain that some of you who are getting up in years (over 60) have various complaints or reasons for not taking people up on invitations to go somewhere or do something a little different from your “rut”ine activities.
Have you made some of these excuses for not going when you really wanted to but were afraid to? The list goes on and on.
I don’t want to be gone that long.
My house needs cleaning.
It might rain on the concert.
I am too tired.
It’s too much trouble.
I had a busy week and need to take a day off.
What if I have a heart attack on the cruise?
Often we need to change our attitudes about non routine activities especially when someone we love and who loves us is suggesting we do something fun. If a close friend or family member invites us to go somewhere, that person knows us pretty well. They aren’t likely to invite us to go on a trip that would be bad for us. You wonder how I know all about this?
My friend, Darlene, is 10 years younger than I am. She is a retired nurse and has back problems so she knows personally the back problems and limitations imposed on me. We have gone on many trips together. We flew to Denver for a photography class for me; we’ve been to Virginia Beach, Carolina Beach, Top Sail Beach, Asheboro Zoo. We always have fun.
I enjoy outdoor concerts at a nearby amphitheater. Now that I am older and have experienced several concerts with outdoor seating during a deluge of rain, I check the weather first. I try to prepare for rain, cold or bugs. But in retrospect, being soaked was not such a bad thing really. I could always wear bug repellent.
Considering I went to another concert last year that was so hot and humid, I hardly enjoyed the music. Rain means I am cooler though wet. Yet every time my friend invites me to a musical, outdoor event, I still check the weather. (Am I becoming an old fuddy duddy?)
Several years ago I was wishing I could do something fun and interesting and different! I was so bored! Two months later I had laparoscopic surgery and had to lie around the house, resting and healing for at least two weeks. Once I could be active again, my heel spur, plantar fasiciitis, and Achilles tendinitis flared up together! I iced, elevated, and rested till I couldn’t do it any more! So I walked with a cane to help take some weight off of my poor foot.
When my buddy called to see if I wanted to go hear the “Doobie Brothers” and “Chicago” I hesitated. Should I with a messed up foot? Wait did she say the “Doobie Brothers and Chicago” were playing!!?? These were two of my favorite groups from my late teens!! I never saw them live!! “Yes! When do I need to pick you up?”
Since I had a handicap placard, we parked in the handicapped parking lot, which saved me a lot of walking. We went up some steps but I went slowly and carefully. Yay!! We made it! I was a bit sore the next day, but it was so worth it!! I was so glad that I said,” yes!!”
Here is a clip of a 2017 showing on Good Morning America. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3VJsqcrieVA
Here is a link to Chicago’s website: https://www.chicagotheband.com/
These guys are in their fifties to seventies but they were rocking!! So many memories from my late teenage and early adult years, my first love and future husband! The weather was perfect, we were comfortable and grooving to the music. Once I got seated on the hill in my chair, I was loving the concert! I shudder to think of all the fun I would have missed!
My friend has been on lots of cruises and wants me to go on one later this fall with her. Already my mind is reluctantly, hemming and hawing. Thinking up reasons I shouldn’t go, the thoughts of omnipresent disasters: a hurricane, rainy, stormy weather, sea sickness, illness; all of which could make that vacation investment a total loss!
Then I worried: What if I can’t sleep at night and end up sleeping the next morning away? What about my cat? She has to have her medicines but I have another cat owner with whom I am swapping sitting services. But what if they get sick while I am gone? What if I spend too much money? Do I have enough money to go??
There come the questions again!
When I spoke to my friend Darlene about all of this, knowing me like she does, she replied, “What if those things don’t happen? You could miss a wonderful time!”
My brother has reminded me that any of us could die tomorrow; so what good would the money we worked for do us sitting in a bank, if we’re dead and never enjoyed it.
I know not everyone can do everything they want to do, but we can allow ourselves some simple pleasures every now and then. Not all happiness is to be bought. We can find joy in the beauty of life, flowers, people’s hearts, new knowledge, going for a walk and seeing things we never noticed before.