Holidays Are Not Always Happy For Everyone

During the holiday season there is a mixture of varying emotions. There are many who are caught up in the holiday decorations, music, gift giving and receiving , Santa Claus, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa and Jesus’s birth celebration, and of course New Years Day.

Depending on our religious or spiritual preferences many of us love Christmas or the corresponding celebrations. This is the time of year when families want to get together to share a meal, presents or memories of past Christmases and make new ones. Children are eagerly anticipating Christmas morning and the presents. But this Christmas season there is much sorrow, grief, fear, and loss.

Many have no money for food, rent, medicines, or have lost their homes due the necessary Covid virus shutdowns. Things are not quite so merry if you have lost a loved one or your home.

For some, the warm feelings of donating gifts or helping others gives us a sense of joy. There are always children or teens or adults who need help, presents, food, or just some company. If you don’t have family, make a family or at least contribute to the holidays of others .

After the meals and cookies and pies are eaten and the presents packed to take home, there may be a letdown for some. Everyone has gone home, no parties until New Year’s Eve; the surprise of wrapped packages waiting has disappeared with the torn paper and ribbons. The music has stopped. The excitement of getting together has departed with a dull buzz and all are tired.

What is there to look forward to now? Yes, there is the first of the New Year that follows with fireworks and more parties. But then what? We start our new year with resolutions of changes, improvements, ambition to accomplish some goal. But soon our resolutions become fuzzy in our memories and other things take their place. Often we just go back to the same routine.

Sometimes the pain or burden is just too great for some to donate or participate in any joyous activities. For many it is unrealistic to expect them to leave their pain, memories, or illness behind during the festivities.

Tragically there are many who are suffering painful memories, depression, catastrophic losses, diseases, emotional and physical pain. Some people reach such a level of total depression and hopelessness that they contemplate or commit suicide. Many of us have had at least one if not more of these difficult times during our lives.  

This holiday season please remember those who are depressed, have lost their homes to fires, floods, chronic illness, the economy, or loss of a job. Remember those who have to celebrate the holidays in the hospital with a loved one or as a patient. Remember those who have lost dear ones. Offer a prayer, send positive energy, or a wish for their lives to improve and that their hearts will soon heal.

Better still when and if you are able, donate money, items, toys, your time to whatever worthy cause is close to your heart. Call someone you know who is hurting and tell them you would like to visit and see if they could use a patient, loving friend to just listen to their problems or just sit in silence if they prefer. Sometimes having a compassionate friend to listen to their expressions of pain and grief may offer some release of their suffering.

Sometimes we don’t know what to say for those who are suffering. The important thing is that you call and let them do the talking if they want to. If they don’t want to talk about their problems then just tell them you were thinking about them and wanted to let them know you cared or you were praying for them. You may also ask them if they have any beautiful of good memories they might want to share.

Sometimes just those kinds of compassionate words can mean so much. But don’t make just one call. Call back and check on them periodically. You never know what a simple offering of concern can mean to someone. Love your neighbor.

For those who have suffered grief, pain or severe loss, please seek help. Sometimes you may feel hopeless but there are many organizations who offer help of different kinds. There are also many churches who truly have a compassionate heart who help those in need.

For those considering suicide, don’t give up! There is a national suicide hot line where you can talk with someone who can offer support or help at 1-800-273-8255. There is also help for Domestic Violence: 800-799-7233 (SAFE). So many other lines can be found on the internet for those who need counseling or help for many different problems.

Take care of yourself, take care of your family, your friends and neighbors. Give what you can when you can. If you can’t give or donate, then pray for or call a friend you know may be suffering. You won’t regret it.

Remember that we all could be unsuspecting victims of a major catastrophic problem that could wreck our lives just as so many others have. Try to remember those who lave lost so much this year and do something to help if you haven’t already.

10 thoughts on “Holidays Are Not Always Happy For Everyone

  1. Stay safe dear Joy. Indeed this has certainly been a year that could gob-smack flat the most optimistic of any of us. Your essay was excellent and reminds me of the verse ‘There but for the grace of God go I. All my best to you.

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  2. A post well worth reading… but I do not believe this particular season stands out in regards to misery more than any past season… or infact, the seasons to come… there are always individuals, families, and countries struggling somewhere in the world… sometimes even our immediate neighbours whom we see regularly, but unfortunately do not connect with… not to mention our neighbours on the other side of the World, whom we may have heard of, but do not deem it necessary to regard as members off humanity, much less neighbours…!

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  3. Thank you for commenting, Moribascorner. I agree that this season doesn’t stand out in regards to misery more than any past season. To me the sadness comes from it being a time of celebration, children laughing and enjoying their families, foods, presents, watching those I love enjoying their gifts from me or Santa Claus. I am very aware and sensitive to the fact that there are so many suffering all year. I feel the frustration of not being able to help everyone. But I do try to help and make a difference in my home town.
    One song by Joseph Maloy Roach, I grew up with is:

    One Little Candle

    It is better to light just one little candle,
    Than to stumble in the dark!
    Better by far that you light just one little candle,
    All you need’s a tiny spark!


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